Expert Insight: for Women’s Wholeness Expert Lacey Haynes, pleasure isn’t something that happens in the bedroom. Connecting with her authentic pleasure has been a life-changing, career-changing experience that has seen her free-birth a baby, elevate her sex life, and forge an incredible new career path as an international coach and visionary. Today, Lacey travels internationally …
Talk it out: Our 2018 ‘Talk Sex Change Lives’ survey revealed that one in three women can’t talk sex with her partner(s). Yet the ability to communicate freely and openly about our sexual experience and desires is not only a vital part of who we are: it’s also a vital ingredient for a happy and …
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Expert insight: there’s no doubt about it: relationships are tough. The constant give and take, push and pull: the struggle to make space for others in your life, without losing sight of ‘you’ and your needs. For so many of us, our ability to truly connect in a healthy, intimate and satisfying relationship, here and …
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How can you commit to a relationship, whilst remaining fully committed to ‘you’? How do you navigate the tough questions of selfhood and partnership? Psychosexual Coach Aoife Drury has helped hundreds of individuals and couples to harness the power of words to create fulfilling sexual relationships: benefit from her expertise and insights exclusively at Making …
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Sexual dysfunctions are invisible to those other than the people struggling with them, and their partners. But the additional distress is because we don’t know how to deal with or communicate about these difficulties. So often conflict or problems between a couple can arise as they just can’t find the language to explain what’s going …
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We have lots in common with each other, we are sisters after all. But some years ago I realised that I don’t go about relationships, dating and sex in quite the same way as my vanilla heterosexual sisters. I tried to work out how much of the difference was because of kink, how much was …
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Remember when you were a child and used to play ‘let’s pretend’? You never worried about what others thought of you. You were happy to play with friends and were happiest when you were laughing. Playing ‘let’s pretend’ allowed you to try on a host of different personalities. It was exciting as well as lots …
Most people choose their relationship styles based on those of their parents and the culture that they grow up in. In fact, people often don’t see relationship style as a choice. There is a mainstream cultural story and unless there is a reason to move away from that story – that is the way a …
In fairy tales, in stories, and in movies relationships are portrayed : ‘And they all lived happily ever after’. ‘Someday my prince(ss) will come’ ‘I will be happy when I find the one who completes me’ Many of us were raised with these stories and the cultural conditioning that comes a lot with them. …
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“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay We introduce our first ever ‘ Who I am’ segment of 2019, Self Love. Starting January to March with 12 events and 6 teachers and speakers our self love series is …
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Ready for more? A big part of the Scarlet Ladies experience is the community we create together. At all of our Discuss and Develop events, you’ll connect with like-minded women, hand-picked events brands and brand partners, ready to support you as you go exploring. Discover sex-positive London in the safe company of your Scarlet sisterhood and our trusted partners.
Explore London, Scarlet Style! Led by Rudo Mashongamhende, our all-new weekend events programme invites you to join us for a Scarlet tour of London. Open to all Scarlet Ladies everywhere, these fun and fabulous socials are offered completely free for members: you will only need to pay for any venue entry fee and drinks. From picnics and pub trips to exhibitions and late-night clubs or bars, Off the Record weekend socials make space for you to continue the conversations from 23 Paul Street or start new ones. Relax, chill out, and be inspired in the company of your Scarlet sisters. Discover new places and new sides to yourself that you had forgotten were there: find answers to the questions you never dared ask; push your boundaries or just have some fun: whatever happens off the record, stays off the record! Get ready to experience the best of sex-positive London with our group of likeminded Scarlet explorers.
Continue your journey and grow in confidence with our interactive workshops. Develop events are available exclusively to Scarlet Ladies members, and are designed for those who are already comfortable speaking openly about sexual experiences and sexuality, or who have been members of Scarlet Ladies for at least 3 months.
Our self development workshop series invites you to spend time really getting to know the most important person in your life: yes, we mean YOU. Expect a mix of group discussion, personal reflection and self-development exercises designed by Scarlet Ladies’ lead coach Sarah. We explore each of our FIERCE values – Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, through two consecutive monthly workshops, limited to just 20 participants: attend them individually, or sign up for them all for a full year of sexual development and growth.
This is sex education like you never had it before: our straight-talking ‘How-To’ sessions take a head-on approach to all the questions you never dared ask at school! Expect eye-opening insights from London’s best sex educators: at our members-only workshops, you’ll discover a world of tips, tricks and skills guaranteed to transform your world in the bedroom (and beyond …)
Your Scarlet Ladies journey starts here.Suitable for everyone, all are welcome to speak out and share their views, or simply absorb the perspectives and wisdom of the room. Discuss events come in all shapes and sizes, from big panel discussions through to intimate coaching sessions and informal socials. Some Discuss events are open to non-members.
Open to non-members, our panel discussions bring together real women from different backgrounds, including professional therapists, sex workers and ‘ordinary’ women, to talk openly about key topics that affect women everywhere. Expect no-holds-barred conversations in an environment that is safe and supportive, as we lift the lid on different aspects of female sexuality to break down the barriers of stigma and shame.
Real inspiration from FIERCE women: in Scarlet Ladies’ answer to TED talks, our speakers join us to change attitudes and change lives by challenging prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Our FIERCE speakers inspire and educate, by sharing ideas, knowledge and experience on topics relating to female sexuality. Non-members are welcome.
Small and intimate, each monthly Scarlet Circle session is available exclusively to members, with opportunities for up to 4 ladies to seek support from the group each month and a further 6 to attend each session. Expect honest feedback; brainstorming, cheerleading and much-needed truth-telling. We suggest that you join us for a minimum of two consecutive monthly sessions, so that we can support each other with the best possible mutual understanding and advice.
Sharing confidences; sharing the journey and inviting other women like you to benefit from the lessons you’ve learned along the way: At Home With … members’ only events go right to the heart of what the Scarlet Ladies community is all about. Scarlet Ladies members take the floor for an intimate night of conversation; share stories; and take questions from the group about the experiences, expertise or events that have made her the FIERCE woman she is today.
Our FIERCE Talks change attitudes and change lives. Guided by our founding values of Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, FIERCE Talks challenge prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Every month we bring you a FIERCE woman to inspire and educate you by sharing her ideas, knowledge and experience on a topic relating to female sexuality. We believe in the power of talking to help women stand together to challenge negative attitudes, and transform the lives of women from all walks of life.