“I talk sex because it shouldn’t be taboo: I’m all about loving sex!” “I talk sex because not enough people do. Some women won’t open up and be honest about their sex lives, sexual desires or sexuality because they’re afraid of what others might think. This taboo situation drives me properly crazy – and not …
“I talk sex because by simply speaking up, you may ultimately change another woman’s life for the better. “ “I talk sex because silence breeds shame and ignorance, and allows oppressive behaviour towards women to go unchallenged. “By speaking openly and sharing feelings and experiences, we can teach and learn from each other. Ultimately, we …
“I talk sex because I’ve learned to love and value myself” “I talk sex because women across every generation have become disconnected from their sexuality and bodies. We have all experienced sexual shame and trauma in different degrees and forms. “There is significant power in our female sexuality, for healing, and for connection with ourselves …
“I talk sex because I was raped – and too ashamed to report it” “I talk sex because sexual predators take advantage of women’s silence. When I was raped, it took me a while to even realise what had happened to me. Because it did not happen in the way that we see on TV: …
I talk sex because I love my body “Talking sex is important to me because black women are usually left out of the sexual empowerment conversation: we are often over-sexualised. “I would like to be a face for the woman who finds sex interesting, empowering and powerful. I want to represent the woman who has …
“I talk sex to put an end to narrow-minded ignorance and abuse” “I’m originally from Brazil – when people hear this, they instantly assume I have a lot of sex and love any physical contact. “I have also been a victim of sexual abuse: at the age of 10 I was sexually abused by an …
“I talk sex because if everyone spoke openly, no one would need to feel ashamed” “When I was younger, I struggled with both desires and shame around sex. I didn’t masturbate and therefore never had an orgasm until I was 23. Since then, it’s been a real journey exploring my sexuality. “In the past, I …
“I talk sex because I survived: I was raped because no one ‘talked sex’ to me” “Everything I know about sex has been self-sought and self-taught, through experiences and discussions that were always too taboo for my environment or my peers. I value so much my sexuality and I’ve benefited from those accessible people who …
“Sex is a very human thing – yet only one gender is allowed to speak openly about it” “Sex is constantly around us: as a very human thing, necessary to our survival as a species; and also as a very commercial thing, used every day by the advertising world to sell products not even slightly …
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Ready for more? A big part of the Scarlet Ladies experience is the community we create together. At all of our Discuss and Develop events, you’ll connect with like-minded women, hand-picked events brands and brand partners, ready to support you as you go exploring. Discover sex-positive London in the safe company of your Scarlet sisterhood and our trusted partners.
Explore London, Scarlet Style! Led by Rudo Mashongamhende, our all-new weekend events programme invites you to join us for a Scarlet tour of London. Open to all Scarlet Ladies everywhere, these fun and fabulous socials are offered completely free for members: you will only need to pay for any venue entry fee and drinks. From picnics and pub trips to exhibitions and late-night clubs or bars, Off the Record weekend socials make space for you to continue the conversations from 23 Paul Street or start new ones. Relax, chill out, and be inspired in the company of your Scarlet sisters. Discover new places and new sides to yourself that you had forgotten were there: find answers to the questions you never dared ask; push your boundaries or just have some fun: whatever happens off the record, stays off the record! Get ready to experience the best of sex-positive London with our group of likeminded Scarlet explorers.
Continue your journey and grow in confidence with our interactive workshops. Develop events are available exclusively to Scarlet Ladies members, and are designed for those who are already comfortable speaking openly about sexual experiences and sexuality, or who have been members of Scarlet Ladies for at least 3 months.
Our self development workshop series invites you to spend time really getting to know the most important person in your life: yes, we mean YOU. Expect a mix of group discussion, personal reflection and self-development exercises designed by Scarlet Ladies’ lead coach Sarah. We explore each of our FIERCE values – Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, through two consecutive monthly workshops, limited to just 20 participants: attend them individually, or sign up for them all for a full year of sexual development and growth.
This is sex education like you never had it before: our straight-talking ‘How-To’ sessions take a head-on approach to all the questions you never dared ask at school! Expect eye-opening insights from London’s best sex educators: at our members-only workshops, you’ll discover a world of tips, tricks and skills guaranteed to transform your world in the bedroom (and beyond …)
Your Scarlet Ladies journey starts here.Suitable for everyone, all are welcome to speak out and share their views, or simply absorb the perspectives and wisdom of the room. Discuss events come in all shapes and sizes, from big panel discussions through to intimate coaching sessions and informal socials. Some Discuss events are open to non-members.
Open to non-members, our panel discussions bring together real women from different backgrounds, including professional therapists, sex workers and ‘ordinary’ women, to talk openly about key topics that affect women everywhere. Expect no-holds-barred conversations in an environment that is safe and supportive, as we lift the lid on different aspects of female sexuality to break down the barriers of stigma and shame.
Real inspiration from FIERCE women: in Scarlet Ladies’ answer to TED talks, our speakers join us to change attitudes and change lives by challenging prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Our FIERCE speakers inspire and educate, by sharing ideas, knowledge and experience on topics relating to female sexuality. Non-members are welcome.
Small and intimate, each monthly Scarlet Circle session is available exclusively to members, with opportunities for up to 4 ladies to seek support from the group each month and a further 6 to attend each session. Expect honest feedback; brainstorming, cheerleading and much-needed truth-telling. We suggest that you join us for a minimum of two consecutive monthly sessions, so that we can support each other with the best possible mutual understanding and advice.
Sharing confidences; sharing the journey and inviting other women like you to benefit from the lessons you’ve learned along the way: At Home With … members’ only events go right to the heart of what the Scarlet Ladies community is all about. Scarlet Ladies members take the floor for an intimate night of conversation; share stories; and take questions from the group about the experiences, expertise or events that have made her the FIERCE woman she is today.
Our FIERCE Talks change attitudes and change lives. Guided by our founding values of Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, FIERCE Talks challenge prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Every month we bring you a FIERCE woman to inspire and educate you by sharing her ideas, knowledge and experience on a topic relating to female sexuality. We believe in the power of talking to help women stand together to challenge negative attitudes, and transform the lives of women from all walks of life.