Why Sonder & Beam
Personal & sexual empowerment for every woman & non-binary person, everywhere.
Sonder: the realisation that each passer-by has a life as vivid and complex as your own. Beam: a ray or shaft of light, or to transmit a message in a specified direction
Regardless of race, background or sexuality, whether you are cis, trans or non-binary, we support one another through expert education and straight-talking conversation. We speak openly to smash stigmas, reject prejudice and stop abuse.
We believe that every woman and non-binary person has the right to make their own decisions about their own body and their own pleasure, and we believe that sexual empowerment is a vital part of the journey towards a fulfilled and confident life.

Through our events, our supportive community and our grassroots charity links, we are working to build a sexually empowered world for every person, everywhere. Connect with sex- positive professionals; meet the people who are making waves; talk, listen and share experiences with other people on journeys parallel to yours. Sonder & Beam is a safe and supportive space where women & non-binary people are leading the way; changing the narrative by replacing judgement and stigma with support and friendship for all, regardless of their background or their situation.
At Sonder & Beam we don’t follow the rules. We make them.


Our Story so far
Sonder & Beam previously Scarlet Ladies was born one cold winter’s day in a coffee shop. In its very earliest days, it was just a little meet-up group where women could go to feel great about themselves. That was the winter of 2015: we have come a long way since then.
Right from the very beginning, we recognised that although feminism has done a great deal to empower women in many areas of life – female sexuality is still too often ignored or overlooked as an aspect of our emotional and personal wellbeing. We set out to change that.
Meet Jannette
Hi, I am Jannette. I founded Sonder and Beam because I believe that everyone around the world deserves to be educated about their body and given the free choice to do what they please with it.
