Personal & sexual empowerment for every woman, everywhere.
Using the power of straight-talking conversation, we are building a future where women’s sexuality isn’t a dirty secret, but something natural that men and women accept and celebrate.
At Sonder & Beam we don’t follow the rules. We make them. We host frank and open conversations about female sexuality and sexual experience, because we believe that our sexual identity is an important part of who we are. Cis, trans and non-binary: every woman is welcome.
Through our events, our supportive community, our directory of trusted sex-positive brands and our grassroots charity links, we are building a sexually empowered world for every woman, everywhere.
When it comes to your body, your sex life and your sexuality, we believe there’s only one person who should get to decide what you do and who you do it with: you. Sonder & Beam draws on the power of honest education, straight-talking conversation and community support to empower every woman to grow in confidence and live her life, her way. .
We say that knowledge is power, and that the greatest power of all lies in knowledge shared with others. Through our expert teachers and our peer community of open-minded, supportive women, we are committed to smashing stigmas, challenging prejudices and setting women free from ignorance, hatred and fear.
Our global community is the heart of Sonder & Beam. We bring together females from all walks of life and all backgrounds in a space of mutual friendship, support and acceptance, where everyone who identifies as female is welcome to learn, grow in confidence, and follow her own journey of self development whilst helping others to follow theirs.
No exceptions, no exclusions, no judgement. Straight, gay, bi or queer; cis, trans or non-binary: no matter who you are, where you come from and where you are on your journey, Sonder & Beam is a safe and inclusive space where you will find friendship and support where you can grow in confidence and love yourself for who you are and who you want to be.
When women stand together, support each other, talk openly and listen deeply, we are all stronger. Sonder & Beam is a space of friendship and equality where every woman from every background will listen and be heard, so that together we will flourish and grow.
From your confidence to your sex life, from your business or career to your relationships, women come together at Sonder & Beam to give and find the support and strength to bring about the transformations that they want to see. Through our community, our campaigns and our charity projects, at Sonder & Beam women work together to build a better, safer world for every woman, everywhere.
£10 from every membership payment, every month, goes directly to charities and organisations working to empower vulnerable women and girls around the world.
Ready for more? A big part of the Scarlet Ladies experience is the community we create together. At all of our Discuss and Develop events, you’ll connect with like-minded women, hand-picked events brands and brand partners, ready to support you as you go exploring. Discover sex-positive London in the safe company of your Scarlet sisterhood and our trusted partners.
Explore London, Scarlet Style! Led by Rudo Mashongamhende, our all-new weekend events programme invites you to join us for a Scarlet tour of London. Open to all Scarlet Ladies everywhere, these fun and fabulous socials are offered completely free for members: you will only need to pay for any venue entry fee and drinks. From picnics and pub trips to exhibitions and late-night clubs or bars, Off the Record weekend socials make space for you to continue the conversations from 23 Paul Street or start new ones. Relax, chill out, and be inspired in the company of your Scarlet sisters. Discover new places and new sides to yourself that you had forgotten were there: find answers to the questions you never dared ask; push your boundaries or just have some fun: whatever happens off the record, stays off the record! Get ready to experience the best of sex-positive London with our group of likeminded Scarlet explorers.
Continue your journey and grow in confidence with our interactive workshops. Develop events are available exclusively to Scarlet Ladies members, and are designed for those who are already comfortable speaking openly about sexual experiences and sexuality, or who have been members of Scarlet Ladies for at least 3 months.
Our self development workshop series invites you to spend time really getting to know the most important person in your life: yes, we mean YOU. Expect a mix of group discussion, personal reflection and self-development exercises designed by Scarlet Ladies’ lead coach Sarah. We explore each of our FIERCE values – Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, through two consecutive monthly workshops, limited to just 20 participants: attend them individually, or sign up for them all for a full year of sexual development and growth.
This is sex education like you never had it before: our straight-talking ‘How-To’ sessions take a head-on approach to all the questions you never dared ask at school! Expect eye-opening insights from London’s best sex educators: at our members-only workshops, you’ll discover a world of tips, tricks and skills guaranteed to transform your world in the bedroom (and beyond …)
Your Scarlet Ladies journey starts here.Suitable for everyone, all are welcome to speak out and share their views, or simply absorb the perspectives and wisdom of the room. Discuss events come in all shapes and sizes, from big panel discussions through to intimate coaching sessions and informal socials. Some Discuss events are open to non-members.
Open to non-members, our panel discussions bring together real women from different backgrounds, including professional therapists, sex workers and ‘ordinary’ women, to talk openly about key topics that affect women everywhere. Expect no-holds-barred conversations in an environment that is safe and supportive, as we lift the lid on different aspects of female sexuality to break down the barriers of stigma and shame.
Real inspiration from FIERCE women: in Scarlet Ladies’ answer to TED talks, our speakers join us to change attitudes and change lives by challenging prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Our FIERCE speakers inspire and educate, by sharing ideas, knowledge and experience on topics relating to female sexuality. Non-members are welcome.
Small and intimate, each monthly Scarlet Circle session is available exclusively to members, with opportunities for up to 4 ladies to seek support from the group each month and a further 6 to attend each session. Expect honest feedback; brainstorming, cheerleading and much-needed truth-telling. We suggest that you join us for a minimum of two consecutive monthly sessions, so that we can support each other with the best possible mutual understanding and advice.
Sharing confidences; sharing the journey and inviting other women like you to benefit from the lessons you’ve learned along the way: At Home With … members’ only events go right to the heart of what the Scarlet Ladies community is all about. Scarlet Ladies members take the floor for an intimate night of conversation; share stories; and take questions from the group about the experiences, expertise or events that have made her the FIERCE woman she is today.
Our FIERCE Talks change attitudes and change lives. Guided by our founding values of Freedom, Inspiration, Esteem, Respect, Courage and Enjoyment, FIERCE Talks challenge prejudices around female sexuality head-on. Every month we bring you a FIERCE woman to inspire and educate you by sharing her ideas, knowledge and experience on a topic relating to female sexuality. We believe in the power of talking to help women stand together to challenge negative attitudes, and transform the lives of women from all walks of life.
When it comes to women’s sexuality, what is “normal”? And why is it so hard to talk about it?
Our panel discussions bring together real women to talk openly about key topics that affect women everywhere. We believe that every woman has the right to feel “normal” when it comes to her body and her sexuality. Talk of the Town events bring together women from different backgrounds, including professional therapists, sex workers and ‘ordinary’ women, for no-holds-barred conversations that empower real women to share opinions and experiences in an environment that is safe and supportive. Every month, we lift the lid on a different aspect of female sexuality, breaking down the barriers of stigma and shame.
