Sexual dysfunctions are invisible to those other than the people struggling with them, and their partners. But the additional distress is because we don’t know how to deal with or communicate about these difficulties. So often conflict or problems between a couple can arise as they just can’t find the language to explain what’s going on. Many believe that their partner won’t believe them faced with something like the following “It just doesn’t make sense that you are attracted to me but can’t get it up”. The challenge is so often that it doesn’t make sense for the male partner either, and that the only version we have to match this against is the one seen on TV and in the movies, which feed into this narrative.