As a sex and intimacy coach and relationship therapist, I encourage clients to create goals and plans that will help them to make their relationships more satisfying, more rewarding and bring more joy in the coming year. It doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship or on your own, sexual excitement is available for all. With this in mind, here are my tips to help you bring more sexual excitement into your life. Grab a journal, some paper, your laptop, your phone or whatever way you have of making notes.
Start by describing where you are now. How much excitement do you have in your sexual life in the present. What does your sexual life look like? Don’t forget to describe your solo sexual experiences as well as experiences with partners. Once you have described this, rate the level of sexual excitement in your life today from 0 – none whatsoever to 10 couldn’t stand any more excitement. Is there room for more excitement?
What do you find exciting now? Are you engaging in these activities or only fantasising about them? Are you not sure about what might be exciting?
Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a registered psychologist, sex & intimacy coach, professional speaker and published author. She has been working with individuals, couples and polyamorous groups for over 30 years to help them create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She writes non-fiction about sex, sexuality, gender, relationships of all kinds, kink, non-monogamy, BDSM and authority transfer based relationships and sexual trauma in her own blog, for a variety of relationship websites, and for a number of print publications. She also writes erotic short stories.