We are a community of women & non-binary people breaking down the stigma and shame attached to sexuality.

Find and build groups to meet new people, learn new things, find support, get out of your comfort zone, and empower each other, together.

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Diverse Community

We don’t say that life is all about sex - but we do believe society makes it tough for us to embrace that side of themselves. 

Using the power of straight-talking conversation, we are building a future where women & non-binary sexuality isn’t a dirty secret, but something natural that all will accept and celebrate.


We believe in the power of sharing ideas and experiences to change perceptions around sexuality. 

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Why Us

Sonder & Beam (previously Scarlet Ladies) was founded in 2015 by Sarah & Jannette: two ordinary women on a mission to help women & non-binary folks everywhere to feel accepted.

Meet Our Members

Today, our community welcomes women & non-binary folks from all walks of life, regardless of ethnicity, sexual orientation or experience. It’s not about what you do or who you do it with; it’s about feeling the confidence to be who you are without fear of judgement … and helping others to do the same.


“I never would have predicted how much Sonder and Beam have enriched my life. Before joining the group I had no idea how varied the discussions and talks we have would be (so far topics have included managing your finances, systemic biases in scientific research, pelvic pain disorders and the myriad different cultural experience of many of our members and guests). Having a group of womxn who I I can trust to always be supportive and non-judgemental has been invaluable to me and I hope to continue being part of the group for a long time to come and to welcome many more womxn to this incredible community.”



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